Your first lessons in love leave an imprint on your soul. Your childhood imprints of intimacy mark the way you love the rest of your life.
Ask yourself the following question:
Can you recall being comforted as a child after a time of emotional distress?
I’m not talking about situations like a scraped knee or stubbed toe.
How you answer that question could reveal a lot about your imprint of intimacy from your first love relationships. This imprint forms your style.
What Are Love Styles?
I’m not talking about Gary Chapman’s Love Languages here. Those are great- just not the topic of today’s blog. Your experiences as a child leave an imprint on your soul. This imprint informs the way you respond to the love of others even into adulthood. It also informs the way you express love to others.
You may have been imprinted to avoid, please, vacillate, control, be a victim, or more. Whatever the case, you may have grown up without the healthy, secure foundation that relationships are a safe place for you to go to receive comfort.
You may have had the unique ability to grow up as a secure connector. This is the ideal way to relate to others from a place of security, trust, and respect. Unfortunately, many of us have developed a destructive love style.
How About You? Do You Have A Secure Or Destructive Love Style?
Take this quiz to find out:
Take The Love Style Quiz
Want To Know More?
Milan and Kay Yerkovich wrote a great book called How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage. They have a whole series for singles, couples, counselors, etc at How We Love. (note, I’m not an affiliate or anything. I just have benefited from these resources and want to share).
I’ll be writing more on this topic in upcoming blogs, so be sure not to miss by following the blog.
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