Through blessing, we communicate God’s heart about the inherent worth and value of every individual we bless. The absence of blessing in a person’s life leaves a void where love, acceptance, and emotional connection should reside.

According to John Trent and Gary Smalley in The Blessing: Giving the Gift of Unconditional Love and Acceptance., one of the elements of blessing is a spoken message.

What is a Spoken Message?

The spoken message is a fundamental element of a blessing, carrying the power to uplift, encourage, and affirm an individual’s worth and potential. Through carefully chosen words, a blessing can communicate deep love, acceptance, and belief in the person’s unique qualities and abilities. Like Sincere, Specific Encouragement, it provides an opportunity to express specific admiration, gratitude, and appreciation uniquely meaningful to an individual. A spoken message within a blessing holds the capacity to heal emotional wounds, instill confidence, and ignite a sense of purpose. It has the potential to shape an individual’s self-perception and help them recognize their inherent value and strengths.

The spoken message in a blessing serves as a powerful tool to counter negative self-talk and self-doubt. By offering words of affirmation, encouragement, and support, a blessing can help reframe negative narratives and replace them with positive beliefs. It becomes a source of inner strength and resilience, enabling individuals to overcome challenges and setbacks. The spoken message within a blessing acts as a reminder of their potential and ignites a spark of motivation to pursue their dreams and aspirations. It becomes a guiding light that helps navigate through life’s obstacles with a renewed sense of purpose.

Moreover, a spoken message within a blessing fosters deeper emotional connections between individuals. It creates an environment of open communication and vulnerability, allowing both the giver and recipient to share their hearts authentically. The spoken words convey empathy, understanding, and empathy, establishing a bridge of empathy and compassion. When delivered with sincerity and intention, the spoken message has the power to strengthen bonds, build trust, and cultivate meaningful relationships. It becomes a catalyst for growth and a source of emotional support that can be cherished for a lifetime.

In summary, the spoken message within a blessing holds transformative power. It has the ability to shape self-perception, counter negative narratives, and ignite motivation. Through words of affirmation, encouragement, and love, a spoken message communicates belief in an individual’s worth and potential, fostering deeper emotional connections and creating an environment of support and understanding.

What Happens if Someone Doesn’t Receive A Spoken Message?

It is important for us not to ignore this need in our children, spouses, and close friends, as denying them a spoken message, we are denying them an important part of the blessing. The absence of a spoken message within a blessing can have detrimental effects on an individual’s self-esteem, emotional well-being, and sense of identity. Without words of affirmation, encouragement, and love, individuals may struggle with negative self-perception and self-doubt. The lack of a spoken message denies them the validation and recognition of their worth and unique qualities, leading to a diminished sense of confidence and a negative internal dialogue. The absence of uplifting words can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, unworthiness, and a distorted self-image. The negative consequences of not receiving the blessing of a spoken message include a higher susceptibility to self-criticism, reduced motivation, and difficulty in developing a positive and resilient mindset. Additionally, the absence of a spoken message can hinder the formation of healthy relationships and emotional connections, as individuals may struggle to trust in others and believe in their own value.

Jesus Demonstrated A Spoken Message

In the teachings and interactions of Jesus, we can find numerous examples of how he demonstrated the blessing of a spoken message. Jesus used his words to offer love, encouragement, and guidance to those he encountered, embodying the essence of blessing through his communication. Here are a few ways Jesus demonstrated the blessing of a spoken message:

1. Words of Forgiveness and Acceptance: Jesus often spoke words of forgiveness and acceptance to those who were marginalized, outcast, or burdened by guilt. He offered them hope, assuring them of God’s love and willingness to embrace them. One notable example is the story of the woman caught in adultery, where Jesus not only forgave her but also empowered her to go and sin no more.
2. Words of Encouragement and Healing: Jesus spoke words that brought comfort and healing to those who were suffering physically, emotionally, or spiritually. He offered words of encouragement to the sick, telling them to have faith and be healed. His words carried power and authority, bringing restoration and hope to those in need.
3. Words of Teaching and Wisdom: Jesus used parables and teachings to convey profound truths and offer guidance for living a meaningful and fulfilling life. His words were often thought-provoking, challenging people’s perspectives and inviting them into a deeper understanding of God’s kingdom. Through his teachings, Jesus blessed his disciples and the crowds by imparting wisdom and revealing the nature of God’s love and grace.
4. Words of Commissioning and Empowerment: Jesus spoke words that commissioned and empowered his disciples to carry out his mission. He encouraged them, instilling confidence and reminding them of the purpose and power they had been given. For example, before his ascension, Jesus blessed his disciples with the Great Commission, instructing them to go and make disciples of all nations, assuring them of his presence and authority.

Jesus’ spoken messages exemplified the essence of blessing by offering love, acceptance, forgiveness, encouragement, healing, wisdom, and empowerment. His words not only impacted the immediate recipients but continue to inspire and bless people today.

The Ultimate End: The Father Lifting them Up into All They Are as His Beloved Sons and Daughters

Usually extended by a parent or loving adult to a child, the blessing ultimately aids a child to be able to see God as their Heavenly Father, loving lifting them up into all He created them to be. It shields them from an orphan mindset and creates space in their spirit for sonship in the Kingdom of God and an inner knowing that they are fully and freely accepted as a son or daughter of the King.

It’s Never Too Late for the Blessing

If you haven’t extended this aspect of the blessing to your children and others you love, it is never too late. You can even explain to them that you now know this is important, apologize for not extending it before, and ask them what they feel comfortable with. If you haven’t received it, check out this post. It’s never too late.

The Lord binds up our wounds, carries our pain, and heals us from the inside out (Isaiah 61:1-3). He never grows weary or frustrated with us. He is always inviting us into more of Himself. As we know Him better, He restores the blessing. His blessing is perfect for us. He alone can invite and lift us up into all that we are as we rest in all that He is.

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